It can be a very big decision to move across the country, especially when you basically spent your whole life in one place. I have lived in Seattle, WA since I was 5 years old, but now that I have two young kids and became a mom very young, it’s really difficult to afford to live here. Right now Seattle is on its path to become the most expensive city in the United States to live in (even more expensive than California). Houses are averaging at about at least $550,000. Some of these houses were even built in the 1970’s. Any of the newer houses are averaging at $800,000 – $1,000,000 right now. This is something that unfortunately is really difficult for us to afford and Gian has some family in Georgia and a house available for us to move into.
The differences in prices between Seattle and Georgia is definitely a huge difference. House prices are around $250,000 – $350,000 in Georgia. Gas in Seattle is $2.85 and in Georgia it’s at $2.11. The schools have better ratings in Georgia and even the prices of food are cheaper.
We have lived in Georgia before for about 6 months at a time for each of my pregnancies and it was really difficult for me to be away from my home and as much as I wish I could make it work to live in Seattle, it’s just not becoming a reality. I need to do what is best for my children and there are many benefits to my family for moving to Georgia.
We would have a house ready for us to live in, I would only have to work part time if even, Gian’s income stays the same no matter which state we live in, and I could focus more of my time giving my children the childhood that they deserve. It will be a huge transition and it’s not happening anytime in the near future, but it is definitely a serious thought crossing our minds.
If you have any advice on how to cope with moving away from your family, let me know!
It can be really difficult trying to find the right daycare/nanny to take care of your children. There are so many scary news stories out there about children being injured or mistreated while in the care of somebody else. It can also be really expensive.
In my situation, full time childcare is about $1,000 a month per child. And unfortunately I am $40 over the income limit to receive any help from the state when trying to get care for my children. I work a full time job, 40 hours a week, and a second job on Saturdays to try to keep up with the needs of trying to live in Seattle, WA. It would basically add up to my whole paycheck of trying to put both my children into childcare which would defeat the purpose of going to work.
At first I tried to find a nanny through Care.com which I found someone who was very great and understanding at first of my schedule. Over time, my kids were begging for me to not have her come over and she was taking over children about 30 miles away every day for a “play date.” It didn’t last very long and we ended up having find care from someone else.
We found an in home daycare licensed through the state that was about 5 minutes from our home and seemed like they were taking good care of our kids. She understood our needs for care, our schedules, and that we couldn’t afford much (about $800/week). It was going great for about 3 months and then when I messaged about bringing our kids in at a different time at the beginning of March, the lady stated that she raised her prices and also gave away my children’s spots in her daycare. It was really upsetting that it happened without notice when my kids had been there the week beforehand and she could’ve easily mentioned it to us.
Then someone referred us to a nanny share situation and she has been really great. We pay her $25/day per child and she sends us picture, video, and text updates on the children throughout the day to let us know how they’re doing. They get fed really good meals, have many different activities to do, and they go on a daily walk outside to the park to interact with other children and get some fresh air.
It took a really long time to find someone that you can honestly trust with your child. It is a learning experience and you want to find someone who is affordable, understanding, and truly cares about your child. The most important thing to me is that the person will take care of your child, no matter what. I just want someone who will treat them like their own. They are my babies and they deserve the best. Keep an open mind, keep trying to find someone if you have to, and always trust your gut when it comes to child care.